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Get your relationship back on track. Here is a resource which is sure to help. An ebook with self-help tools which are sure to make a difference in your relationship. Many 100’s of couples have experienced the transforming therapy work which Gary provides and which can now be yours in the form of an ebook and other articles below. Purchase your resource now.  


Available now for FREE from Gary as self help tools:

  • Becoming parents: Know the terrain  
  • Work/life balance 
  • Sex Education & Sex Addiction 

Just email me and I will send to you any of these Articles FREE.


 eBOOK: “The Art of Loving”

This is a summary of my eBook. It is for singles, partners, marrieds and for those thinking of or preparing for marriage. It is an educational book and at the same time provides self-help tools to help you in your current or future relationship – from an experienced Relationship Therapist.

What do you do and what happens when your whole world – as you know it – comes toppling down. All the foundations which society say are important such as career, professionalism, marriage, finance, children, house, health, Churchlife & social life as you know them and quality of life are shaken to their core.

Chapter 1: First thing first

Chapter 2: Masks and games people play

Chapter 3: Pain hurts

Chapter 4: Unconscious needs which influence the journey – some tools

Chapter 5: Not ready yet for change – Changing your mind (1)

Chapter 6: Ready now – Changing your mind (2)

Chapter 7: Stages of change

Chapter 8: Conflicts

Chapter 9: LOVE: Rebuilding, Refreshing, Resurrecting, Rekindling, Refreshing

Chapter 10: Love me in five ways (1)

Chapter 11: Love me in five ways (2)

Chapter 12: Love me in five ways (3)

Chapter 13: Love me in five ways (4)

Chapter 14: Love me in five ways (5)

Chapter 15: When the Five loves disappear

Chapter 16: Communication or Miscommunication? (1)

Chapter 17: Communication or Miscommunication? (2)

Chapter 18: Communication or Miscommunication? (3)

Chapter 19: A Lifetime love affair. A tall order or realistc? 

ebook is yours for only £7.99 

 Any couple in relationship difficulty and those who just want to improve the intimacy of their marriage will find plenty of practical help in this down to earth guide which combines many years of deep insight with lots of case examples and tasks to do individually or together – Dr Trevor Stammers FRCGPformer GP for 27 years and author of “Saving Sex: Answers to Teenagers'”, ” The Family Guide to Sex and Intimacy” and “Love Lies Bleeding: Abuse in the Family”.

Not a book for a quick read through! Gary McFarlane has packed boatloads of wisdom and practical advice in here. This is a book that could begin a relationships-transforming journey for many – Revd Professor John Nolland BSc ThL BD PhD, Academic Dean, Director of Research, Tutor, Trinity College, Bristol.


Order your copy now for only £7.99 !!

                   All purchases will be available in PDF format. Other formats are available upon request.

Now available from AMAZON.COM and AMAZON.CO.UK – ISBN 9781463556952


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 Song of Solomon for Lovers       £8.99


Maybe the John 10:10 life was meant to encompass the pleasurable enjoyment and fulfillment of sex and sexual intimacy, when it is done God’s way.

Proverbs 5: 15 – 19 commends those who are married to do the following:


Drink water from your own cistern,

And running water from your own well.

Should your fountains be dispersed abroad,

Streams of water in the streets?

Let them be only your own,

And not for strangers with you.

Let your fountain be blessed,

And rejoice with the wife of your youth.

As a loving deer and a graceful doe,

Let her breasts satisfy you at all times;

And always be enraptured with her love.


Sex goes wrong. It does not always work. It does not always click into place. The “No, No, No” and “don’t, don’t, don’t” before marriage, becomes “yes, yes, yes” after marriage, but so often and too often the “how, how, how” is missing from any guidance and pre-marriage preparation. Myths, misunderstandings, misinformation, misdirection and repeated practice, becomes entrenched and sex no longer holds the pleasure it once promised.

Recapture it. Get it for the first time. Your enthusiasm that is! That sex can be great – when practiced in the context that God designed it and when His instruction manual is followed and practiced.

Sometimes a little help is needed to redirect and get us back on track or on a new track.

Prov 4: 7 “And in all your getting, get understanding. Gary McFarlane will seek to help you to get understanding.





     Chapter 1 What are the issues?                              

     Chapter 2 Do the Children really need to know


     Chapter 3 When love and sex goes wrong             

     Chapter 4 Singles, sex, the Bible, marriages

                 and their issues (1)                                     

     Chapter 5 Singles, sex, the Bible, marriages

                 and their issues (2)                                     

     Chapter 6 Singles, sex, the Bible, marriages

                 and their issues (3)                                     

      Chapter 7 Sin and Iniquity                                    

      Chapter 8 Belief theories in CBT                          

      Chapter 9 The Change process                             

      Chapter 10 Prep for oneness: Pre-marriage Prep  

      Chapter 11 Sex Therapy                                       

      Chapter 12 What happens during each sexual

                  Response Cycle?                                       

      Chapter 13 What is Sex Addiction?                      

      Chapter 14 Errors of Pastoral workers                 

      Chapter 15 Song of Solomon as a pattern

                  for lovers                                                  

      Chapter 16 The 5 loves demonstrated by the

                  couple (1)                                                 

      Chapter 17 The 5 loves demonstrated by the

                   Couple (2)                                               



The Book is also available on and Amazon Kindle.

      Here are some of the comments about Song of Solomon for lovers:

     “I am very impressed with your book. It must have been a real labour of love”.

     “This message of this book is needed more and more every day….. It is certainly a book to be widely circulated”.

     “Personally I feel this book will be a vital help to Christians and Non Christians alike”.








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